More and more society is coming to respect and appreciate the important role that intuition plays in our lives. Especially via social media, we may read and participate in conversation around the topic. Instagram influencers and motivational speakers alike will tell you that following intuition plays an important role in the unfolding of an meaningful and fulfilling life. When making decisions, we can use intuition to guide us as a means of staying in our integrity and ensuring that ou...
When we very first have our mind cracked open, and the light of awareness creeps in, we first start to see how the pain in our hearts is the result of past wounding. We see a quote or read a book or have a conversation or go to therapy and see — Oh! Abusive, toxic, codependent, narcissistic, or otherwise undesired behaviours are a result of trauma.
Almost inevitably, we are participating in a toxic relationship at the time of our awakening. The Dunning-Kruger effect makes us overnigh...
There is a narcissism in our inner emotional lives that leads us to believe that our suffering is unique. The same self-centred logic is applied when we personalize (inwards) and project (outwards) our interactions with others, rather than acknowledging that infinite moments in time lead up to one particular interaction.
Or maybe we do, and we use this imagined back story as a weapon of blame as we desperately try to find a way to let ourself off the hook, or to let them off the hook,...
I’ve opened up this little box to write you a note a handful of times in the past few weeks. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it. I wanted to talk about the planets or my family or how I’ve been going through everything and nothing at all here in Ottawa.
And really, that’s what I want to talk about today. How much of nothing is happening here at my partner’s parent’s house.
Because that’s the way it should be. A peaceful nothingness.
Today we rode the ferry to Vancouver Island (finally), and drove to find a camping spot. We are in the Cowichan Valley surrounded by incredibly tall trees, moss, beautiful sunshine, low wind, and few bugs.
Across the road we can hear a hoarse yelling. The man is furious. He seems to be upset because the woman left for a few hours while he was cleaning.
It’s on and off. I try to nap and every time I start drifting he gets going again. I...
It occurred to me the other day that the word Narcissist can be used in the context of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: a diagnosable condition that is well defined in the world of psychology. It’s common, myself included, for victims of abuse to diagnose the abuser with various conditions including NPD, such as borderline personality disorder, sociopathy, psychopathy, bipolar disorder, etc.
An old photo of us
is pinned in its usual spot
jammed under the edge of the mirror’s frame
and it’s the only one in the house.
we don’t capture our love in
we live and breathe love
day in and day out.
but today I look at this photo
and I think to myself
maybe it’s time to put that photo
in a picture frame
behind the glass that says
love is here to stay.
A narcissist is invisible
when you are
playing their game
sometimes we don’t want to
we were as sick as them
even though we know it’s true
because being a victim is
How to spot a narcissist?
show them your strength
and stone cold
at your boundary
refuse to indulge their baiting
they become a child before your eyes
their word choice, adult
yet somehow reminiscent of
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